I overheard a mom talking to her daughter as they were walking along the sidewalk in New York City. The girl was dilly dallying – climbing up on steps & touching every railing – essentially turning the walk into an exercise in gymnastics. She was probably around 3 or 4 years old. As I was about to pass the two, the mom looks at her & says, “How do you think Matilda will feel if you are late?”
This simple statement got me thinking: so many times when I’m running late I am so caught up in all the things that made/are making me late that I often don’t take in to account the person or people I’m late to meet.
Sure, we offer a curt sorry when we finally get to them & possibly explain the reason(s) we are late, but do we really take in to account their actual feelings? And are we truly sorry?
I hate it when I’m late, and in the past that tended to be often, but I’m really trying to be more mindful of my time management so it doesn’t happen as much. Sure, there will be things out of my control, no matter how good I was with my time, that happens!
Now want to talk to all those “creatives” or “artists” who use their lifestyle or personality type as an excuse. I’m sorry, but it’s not an excuse. And no, we shouldn’t just anticipate or expect you to be late.
For all of you people who have waited for one of these & told them, when they arrived late, that it’s okay, why? It probably isn’t! Your probably frustrated (or like me, I tend to get bored or awkward in the waiting).
Time is valuable, people!
• You need to value other’s time & work harder, despite your vocation or personality type, to be more punctual. How would it make _____ feel that you are late? Truly?!
• And if you were the one waiting, stop pretending that it was/is okay! No more buying the excuses. Let them know how it feels! We need to stop letting it be socially acceptable that they are late & hopefully they will start to understand and get better at time management.
And, yes, I am giving all who read this permission to call me on it! Let me know how it makes you feel.
Let’s have faith that they can better, that we can get better, that I can get better.
How would (Matilda)* feel if you are late?
*Insert name(s) here